Although it is not spoken about loudly in our society, violence against boys and men is happening. Most of the time, violence against men and boys is committed by other men and boys, but sometimes women can be abusers, too. Did you know that one in six boys will be sexually assaulted before turning 18? That’s pretty scary, but it also shows you that you are not alone. There is help out there.
First of all, I want you to know how brave you are for visiting this site and looking for information. Looking for more information about abuse is one way that survivors of abuse can begin to heal and understand what has happened to them. There are other ways you can take care of yourself after abuse, and I have listed them below. Two important things to remember as you journey through the healing process are:
It is not your fault, no matter what. There is no excuse for abuse.
Everyone copes and heals in different ways. You know what is best for you.
Some of the ways people cope and nurture themselves:
- Talking with people they trust
- Partnering with a domestic violence or sexual assault agency advocate. Advocates can be great resources, both for talking about the situation and for navigating systems (like medical and legal).
- Keeping a journal or writing poetry or stories
- Painting, sculpting, drawing, collage, or making other kinds of art
- Exercising or playing sports
- Self-pampering, like bubble baths and chocolate
- Listening to or making music
- Screaming, punching pillows, and other healthy ways to release built-up anger
- Taking a vacation
- Getting a massage
- Playing with or petting animals
- What other things can you think of that you do when you’re feeling sad, angry, or upset about something?